– Proverbs 5:18        – Jeremiah 29:6

24th July, 2022

Ps. Samuel Asiamah

 

God wants us to marry in our youth- (Proverbs 5:18)

 

God wants us to procreate . Marriage is a step and venture we should all take. It’s a life long journey

 

Marriage is not about the wedding ceremony. There is a difference between marriage and relationship. In relationships, we tend to show good conducts but show our true characters in marriages.

 

During relationships, you must study your partner extensively to see if they suit you

 

A Christian marriage is void of things married couples do

 

5 questions to ask before you marry

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1. What is your ministry?

2. What is your mission?

3. What is your purpose in life?

4. What is your motive?

5. What is your Vision?

 

1 Corinthians 7:31-33

Your concern should be about God’s affairs else you can backslide when you get married. If you can please the lord, you can please your wife

 

 

3 reasons young men remain single

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1. Unrealistic expectations- shape, color,

2. Wrong and false information about marriage

3. Interest in dating but not getting marriage

 

Find out who that person is before you propose.

 

 

Question 1 – When am I ready to marry

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1. You must be matured – you must be able to make your own decisions and choices without parental control.

2. At which age should I get married? – from 25 years but concentrate on school and work also

3. Don’t hop into another relationship just after a broken relationship. Give yourself some time

4. Don’t marry based on societal pressure

 

Do not make marital decisions when you are very excited. Your mood might influence your choice. Never make a permanent decision when you are moody also

Let your friendship graduate before you get married to him or her. Marry someone who loves you more. The friendship becomes the foundation of your marriage. Note to marry your friend and not a stranger

Love develops – structures and systems

It’s advisable to marry within one year after a full commitment

 

Question 2 – when and how do I start planning my marriage

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1. Discover your purpose. Know that you are the man of the house and as such you should be able to manage a household.

 

2. Develop yourself – know how to perform basic household chores, buy some items needed for marriage,

 

3. You must be working. – Gen 2:15. You must be gainfully employed. If possible add a side business to your main source of income. Save as much as possible. Have emergency funds

 

4. Be well groomed – dress well and appropriately, smell well and bath regularly. Treat mouth odours if you have. Learn how to talk to ladies

 

 

Why do I know he/she is the right person

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1. Know and identify the voice of God. Dreams can sometimes mislead us. You must have an inner conviction.

2. You need a from your spiritual mother or father – proverbs 11:14

 

 

CHECK POINTS

1. Perspective about marriage – money, being lonely

2. Is the person a believer? – 2 Corinthians 6:4. Do they believe in the principles of chastity.

 

The church cannot determine whom you should marry but is accountable for your marriage process- eg: counseling